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• 2/13/2019

Nonbinary Lesbians?

I've been having troubles with my gender identity for some time. For a long time, I never thought about identifying any other gender then... the one I was born with (I'm AFAB). But ever since last month, I've been feeling slightly uncomfortable with being referred to as a "woman". This made me feel slightly sad too, because, I've always identified myself as a lesbian, and I thought if I ended up identifying another gender than woman, my (and my girlfriend's) lesbian identity would be a lie, and that really stressed me out. As my stress with my identity started getting worse, I started to interact with people who were having the same experiences as me, and then, I found out the term "nonbinary lesbian". At first, it confused me, I'll be honest. How can you be "nonbinary" yet be a lesbian?

Then, it was described to me by a few self identified nonbinary lesbians. They said they don’t identify as a women, consider themselves to be on the more feminine end of the spectrum.They feel comfortable within the lesbian community, identify with femininity, and they are attracted to women and feminine-identified people. I was shocked because this almost PERFECTLY how I felt about my identity. So, what are your guy's opinion on this? Should I start identifying myself as a nonbinary lesbian?

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• 2/5/2019

Help pls :)

I need help coming out to my semi-homophobic parents. im 13 and bi. and i wanna wait till im 15 but i still wanna find a way to do it. Any ways you did it or found a good way

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• 1/26/2019

having troubles about finding my gender

i was born a female.but i always act boyish like swearing, starting fights, beating up my friends when im mad lately. my hair is nearly looks like a avarage boy hair. i hate my breasts, they make uncomfortable. but i have no problems about my vagina. when i had my perioid i even hated being a female more. because i was born a girl people exept to take care of myself very often. but i take showers about 1 time in 3 days even if im in my puberty. i hate taking care of myself tought, i think its a waste of time. i never care what i eat even if its unhealty or make me fat. since i was small i always think that gender steriotypes are stupid . in my kindergarden i wanted a hot wheels playset instead of an barbie because i hated dolls but my teachers got mad at me and gave me a barbie. i wear androgyne clothes like sweathers and baggy things.when i look at the mirror i look like both male and female but sometimes that changes. i have alot of female friends and im really glad that i have them even they sometimes complain about me being lazy, rude and nasty. but when we went to the mall i always want to go to the shops where theres food fun stuff etc. but they stay in a clothing shop for like 1 hour and it makes me want to jump of a window. in my school i always wanted to join the boys group but i never talk to them because they would think im weird and they already hate me. sometimes i have a slighty will to do some feminine things tho. i have been trying to find my gender for 3 weeks now and still havent got a clue about it. i have so many options but i cant the right one. i donk think im transgender, maybe non-binary? idk. i hope you guys can help me, thanks for your support already!

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• 1/15/2019

help ??

okay so i’ve came out as ftm transgender and i haven’t been feeling like a boy, i’ve been feeling like a girl. but in the future i was thinking of going on low T and maybe getting top surgery, does that still make me valid?

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• 1/8/2019

Made A Spectrum?

I made a gender spectrum of being male/female to agender. Please tell me if I got anything wrong.


Female (100%)

Paragirl (99 - 51%)

Demigirl (50%)

Librafeminine (49% - 1%)

Agender (0%)


Male (100%)

Paraboy (99 - 51%)

Demiboy (50%)

Libramasculine (49% - 1%)

Agender (0%)

One can be Girlflux/Boyflux if their identity fluctuates along the spectrum. Being -flux is not a gender, but rather a state of being and fluctuations. In my opinion, I find para- and libra- to be gender identities than something of an actual gender itself.

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• 12/11/2018

I'm in a confusing spot and can't "find" my gender.

So, I'm in a confusing spot with how I express that I'm unsure I "fit" a gender.

I was born female and most people recognize me as female and I go along with that fine.

I use all pronouns (not changing between, all simultaneously)

I dress as a male but no one recognizes me as a male.

And it's not that I'm trying to identify as male, but I'm not trying to be a female neither. I'm not trying to identify as anything! I just express and its a thing! I'm really confused. Sometimes I feel I shouldn't even try to find "what I am" and just accept that I am ME, and that ME is a *person* who *kind of* "genders."

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• 12/11/2018

What gender I am?

Can you help me identify my gender? I have quite a hard time pinpointing it. So I'm biologically female, but starting from my teens I'm feeling uncomfortable with it. I'm feeing more comfortable wearing male clothes and I like to crossdress, but wearing skirts and make up is also ok with me. Usually I am thinking that it would have been better to born a male. It's not just about my mindset, but also about my body. Well most about my body. I mean I hate my boobs, I'm feeling disgusted even thinking about pregnancy and I definitely don't want to be a mother, although I guess if I would be a male I could accept the notion of being a father. So according to that I would say, I'm transexual, but I'm not that into women. I won't mind having sex with another woman, but I prefer man. And I'm more or less convinced that even if I would be a male I would be bisexual or gay. So I'm really confused. It feels like I'm a bi or gay man in a woman's body. So what do you think?

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• 11/25/2018

My coming out story and a new gender I feel

Hey everyone, I'm new here. I think I identify as a new gender that I wanted to share here. I also wanted to share my coming out story.

Ever since I was a young boy in Detroit, my father worked at an aquarium. They had sharks, there, and I was always fascinate by them. My father's job was very stressful.

My father was a drinker and a fiend. And one night he goes off crazier than usual. Mommy gets the kitchen knife to defend herself. He doesn’t like that not.. one.. bit.. So, me watching he takes the knife to her laughing while he does it. He turns to me and he says, “Why so serious?!” He comes at me with the knife, “Why so serious?!” He sticks the blade in my mouth, “Let’s put a smile on that face!” And….. “Why so serious?"

He was a horrible person. Eventually he got fired, and had to work at a fireworks factory. After a few months of working there, it blew up. You can see it in this video here* After he died, I was filled with this strang feeling, that the sharks... wanted me.... secuallyl!!

Anyways lately my affectation towards sharks has gotten more serious. I think I am sexually attracted to sharks.. their luscious eyes, their big fins, their teethy teeth, et ceterera.

This new gender is called sharkgender. Do you guys lke it???

If you think you're sharkgender, answer these five questoions:

1.) Do sharks arouse me?

2.) Do I arouse sharks?

If yes to these, you are shark gender.

Also that picture below arouses me lots


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• 11/23/2018


Okay, so I've never felt like my birth sex (female). For a while, I identified as non-binary,and for a while, that felt like it fit. Until it didnt. I started to feel like a girl, but also felt like boy. So I started identifying as bigender. That seemed to fit. Fast-forward a few weeks later,that didn't fit anymore and I came back to non-binary. Fast forward maybe a month later-and that didn't fit anymore. I felt kinda, sorta like a girl,but still felt non-binary,so I thought "maybe I'm a demgirl" ,and that kinda worked for a bit,but it doesn't anymore. It just doesn't feel right. I'm thinking that I'm possibly genderfluid or genderflux to put another label on it again too quickly, and afraid that my gender will change again and ill feel unvalid and like a liar. I'm just not sure anymore.

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• 9/14/2018
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• 9/11/2018


I have decided my gender- bigenderflux! Does anyone thinks this fits me?
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• 9/8/2018

A little help?

I'm having some trouble with my gender- I guess that was obvious if I'm opening a discussion :)
Basically, I always identify as female, but sometimes I also feel slightly male- probably libramasculine- as well. However, when I don't feel like that, I just feel entirely female. I still use she/her pronouns either way.
Does anyone know if there's a definition for this?
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• 9/8/2018

What Gender am I

I just wanna know what gender I best fit. Ok first of all, my sex is male. But I do like some of the things the females get to do, as I like long hair, but people tell me to get a haircut all the time because "I'm a boy" It's really annoying and I think girls are lucky. Anyways, I also took an online test calling me a woman, but I am not girly in all sorts, as an example I do not usually watch TV shows directed torwards girls. I have also had people tell me I was a girl but those are just jerks trying to get on my nerves. So do any of you have a guess of what I am? Please tell me!
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• 7/9/2018
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• 6/26/2018

What do you think my gender is?

I feel kind of conflicted on this.
I guess I feel female (I am born female), but hearing people call me female pronouns makes me feel weird, I don't know how else to explain it. It doesn't feel right, but it doesn't bother me a lot. I really hate my boobs and want a male looking chest, but I don't really want a penis or vagina. I'm fine with the rest of my body though. I like to look gender neutral, but I like long hair. I feel like I mostly fit with female, but the weird female pronoun feeling and the body stuff makes me question it. I don't really fluctuate day-to-day on this stuff, so I don't think I'm gender fluid. Maybe non-binary? I'm sorry if this question is annoying, I just really don't know much about this stuff and wanted some opinions.
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• 6/17/2018

So basically...

So if gender is how you feel... then it isn't really the "gender spectrum" it's the emotional spectrum.
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• 5/30/2018

Trigender/Gender apathetic?

(Hopefully this is still active)
I was born female and I’ve been quite confused on my gender for a while now. I never did care for pronouns too much but whenever I tried to find something that described that I couldn’t find anything. So I came across trigender and I thought that suited enough. But now that I’ve found gender apathetic I’m not sure anymore. I DO feel like different genders (male, female, agender) depending on my mood, but yet I still don’t care for pronouns. 🤷‍♀️

Can anyone help me with this, it’s all appreciated! (Unless I find what you say offensive.)
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• 5/6/2018

According to you, what gender am I?

First, know that I'm biologically male. I acknowledge the distinction that most of you make about between sex and gender, but I don't understand what is meant by "gender." I'm not alone in considering these two terms as synonymous, as in meaning the role you take in sexual reproduction. So what I'm asking is what is meant by gender and, what gender do you think I am. Personally, I don't "feel" as a particular sex, I just am. So am I "agender"?
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• 4/23/2018


I'm coming out as peanutsexual. I've been feeling this attraction to peanuts for a while and I've been denying it, but it can't be denied. I'm peanutsexual.
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• 1/24/2018

I Sexually Identify Grasshoppergender

Please tell me I'm not the only one who identifies as a grasshoppergender on this beautiful site? I mean, I'm proud of being a grasshoppergender, and I know many people who also have grasshoppers as genitals, but am I the only one grasshoppergender on this site?
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