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• 7/8/2017

How to react to someone who says your gender doesn't exist.

It happens all the time. They come on this wiki to complain and make fun. But then we lash out...

"Stop being a transphobic bigot!" "Educate yourself!" "It's not a choice and you're offending an entire community!"

We are becoming as bad as them.

Let's talk about how to deal with someone who has never heard the term "nonbinary" in a civilized manner.
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• 7/8/2017
I'll start with a simple suggestion. Feel free to add on to it or come up with something else:

Knowing where and when to talk back.

Comments like "None of these genders are real and you all have mental disabilities" is best left alone. It's only there to get a reaction. These people might understand if someone talked with them in real life, but on the internet, it's easier to ignore you. They won't listen to anything you have to say, so don't waste your time on them.

On the other hand, comments like "How does this gender even exist? How do you identify as that?" are not very polite, but are more of an invitation to an explanation. But remember, they won't want to read 5 paragraphs. Be brief and use layperson's terms. You don't have to define a gender to explain it. Analogies can be useful in this case. Try something like:
"Imagine having to choose between playing baseball and hockey, but you are not the athletic type. You would rather not play either. It's not that you don't like those sports. You just don't play them because that's not the kind of person you are. That's what it's like to be agender, but with male and female instead of baseball and hockey."
It gives them a good idea of what this gender is like, without a ton of confusing definitions and such.
• 7/14/2017
I like VideogameKitty99's explaination for genders using a light bulb (here they are explaining neutrois):

"For people who are confused about the difference between Agender and Neutrois is that Agender is having no gender where as Neutrois is having a gender that's neutral. I like to think of it like a lightbulb. The lightbulb is the gender and so when the lightbulb is on it could be a gender that's feminine or masculine or inbetween. Neutrois is like a lightbulb that's turned off where as Agender would be like if the lightbulb wasn't there. Hope this helps!" (Posted by VideogameKitty99 on Jan 6, 2017)
• 7/15/2017
I like that explanation too. Simple, but easy to understand!
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