Where was this information while I was trying to grow up? I heard a female guest on a talk show identify herself as non-binary, female. This hit a big nerve with me. As a recent retiree from a school district, we espoused cultural diversity as well as gender diversity, but when I heard them ask us to add "they" to our syllabi, I rolled my eyeballs, most likely because it was never explained in any detail. When I heard this young(er) person explain it on the show, a light bulb went off in my brain. I have never had any desire to change my gender or be with a woman sexually, but I recognize that my brain is and has always been male-oriented. I about puke at social gatherings where women all sit around and talk about crocheting doilies, their babies, and other female-required nurturing duties. I get pissed when all my female friends with spouses, boyfriends, and s/o's have their duties so clearly defined, especially in the kitchen. The women do ALL of the cooking and cleanup, laundry, housework, blah, blah. Where the heck did this come from? Even my father (RIP), who was a farmer, helped out and knew how to cook and make a cucumber & tomato salad. My mom worked like a man outside digging in the dirt, caring for crops, and in the produce stand. At the risk of getting yelled at here, in some ways, I think that the gender identity awakening is a phony construct. This is simply an observation, but it seems to me city folks are a race all their own and have the luxury of choice, not just for gender identity. No one even gave gender identity a second thought the way I was raised. You did your work, honored your parents, and, as my dad said, "Keep your nose clean!" (Still not sure what he meant by that, but I'm sure it had to do with being honest and straightforward). Turns out, my youngest brother identifies as gay. He tried for 20 years to not be gay and it almost did him in. I am not gay--I like all parts of a man, but I find myself acting like a man around men. I have no children and am completely alone, except for my social life which I force myself to do. It is not healthy to be by oneself. I was married for 8 years, have had many s/o's, and a few (s.o.b.'s) :) and still trying to figure out what's "wrong" with me. All I can come up with is that I am not doing the correct feminine things to attract or keep a man (In my defense--I've dumped a few on my own), and...I don't really care to. If you were to look in my house, you would not see a lot of feminine decor. I have a baby grand piano, a couple of computers, and have slapped together some of the cheap furniture myself. I didn't need a man to help me. That's enough for now. Is it possible I could be a non-binary female? I should find this out now before I kick the bucket.